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talker vs. doer

27 Feb

Are you a talker or a doer?  Have you said, “Oh, I really want to do this….yada, yada, yada.”  “I’m going to be an incredible designer someday.” “I really want to make a difference through mentoring or charity work.” “It would be really cool to quit my job and spend more time with my growing family.” “I really should be healthier.”

I’m going to be real frank with you: I’m a talker.  At least, I have been for a while.  Also, I’m kinda over it!  You know the craziest thing I tell myself?

“Just wait. Now is not the right time.”  Why not now?  I’m not saying you’ve got to jump in headfirst and burn bridges.  I’m just saying you can start on something TODAY!

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You know what made successful people successful?  They took ACTION within thirty days of talking about doing something.  They just DID it.  No hemming and hawing for them!

We all think we’re not enough.  Which is crazy.  You are enough!  And chasing what fires you up is not ridiculous.

What do you really, really, really want?  What fires your heart up?  What makes you jump up and down in sheer giddiness?  What scares the bejeebers out of you?

Guess what?  You should probably do that!

Right now, take some action toward it.  Write that seemingly “scary” email.  Just ask.  Surround yourself with the people you love.  Go for a walk.  Step out of that comfort zone (we talked about it here).

If you think, in fifty years, you might regret not doing it, stop talking about it and start doing!

Be a doer.

And, for those like me who have this niggling tiny worry about what the people will think?

This pretty incredible woman, who learned from her mama, always tells me this: “Never let them see you sweat.”  Just do you.

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Come back next week to see the product of what I’ve been away working on and what’s next for Spunky Sapphire!  I’m SO excited for you to see it.

into the magic

12 Feb

Great things never came from comfort zones--lettered by Spunky Sapphire Events--theSpunkySapphire.wordpress.comInside your comfort zone is NOT where the magic happens.  Great things–the truly amazing things–do not happen while in comfort zones.  They happen when you get brave enough to leap outside the lines–or even tiptoe!

I was recently introduced to Marie Forleo’s work and business resources and I’ve been hearing this phrase a lot: “big-hearted creatives who wear their hearts on their sleeves”.  *shudder*

See, wearing my heart on my sleeve and being vulnerable is outside my comfort zone.  You know why? Because that means I can get hurt.  For me, it’s easier to just smile and nod, listen politely, and not let my true feelings or opinions leak because that means I might meet confrontation and-BAM-get my heart bruised.

It would totally be easier to come home from my job and read a book all evening or have not a care in the world and live my evenings leisurely.  I agree.

I actually tried that late last year; I succeeded for a few days.  Then, I got bored, and felt stagnant; that I wasn’t making the difference I knew I could be.

I wasn’t created to have a job or a life like that!

crave the excitement and chaos of creating things, of working my bum off to make something pretty and seeing it come to fruition, to blog a quote that inspires me and succeed in inspiring others through it.  It’s absolutely incredible to reach out to other creative women and forge new paths and create new relationships and encourage each other.

Pursuing this passion of mine and trying to make it profitable is making me nervous and is a generally nail-biting journey because of the unknown.  It’s WAY out of my comfort zone and every step I come to is scarier than the last, but all have been totally worth it in some way a million times over. Most importantly–and the reason I continue to vigorously pursue–I have no regrets.  

When I’m eighty, I don’t want to look back and regret not even trying

While it’s terrifying to get out of my comfort zone, it’s exhilarating to be the force behind this, to be part of something greater in this world, and to feel every sense absolutely tingling when I’m elbow-deep in something fabulous.

Whatever little fear (and I do mean little, because looking back, it will seem small) you harbor about stepping out of your comfort zone is nothing compared to the absolute in-your-element-glory you will feel when you accomplish something you never thought you could do.  All because you took a little leap!

Start. Use. Do.

3 Feb

Start where you are. Use what you've got. Do what you can.--theSpunkySapphire.wordpress.comThis week: no more excuses!

Maybe you’ve heard people say, “Well, I don’t have enough time/money/resources/connections/whatever to make a difference/start my dream/be successful”.  Maybe you’ve said it!  Maybe I have, too.  Enough negative talk.

You DO have resources.  Maybe you just haven’t tried everything yet.  Maybe you’re terrified.  Maybe you haven’t thought outside every box.  Maybe the answer is staring you right in the face.  In any case:

Start where you are.  Use what you’ve got.  Do what you can.

As Whitney English said, “Go ugly early“.  Just get your work out there!  Use a free blogging platform.  Learn HTML/CSS yourself!  It’s not hard and it’s really satisfying when you’ve conquered it all by yourself.  Codecademy is a fantastic resource.  I’ll admit, it can be less than gratifying knowing your site isn’t quite where you’d dreamed it would be right now, but it IS gratifying knowing you took a step and that you can work your way up from this with a little savings!  Start where you are.

As for “Well, I can’t afford/don’t have time for a gym membership, so, therefore, I can’t take care of myself.”  You know that cheesy workout video you have in a box somewhere? (Oh, yeah, we ALL have one).  Use it.  Free!  Go for a walk or run outside.  Also free.  Google 30-day workout challenges, print it out, and put it somewhere you’ll see it!  They’re based on using your body weight as resistance (such as squats or the plank) and, hello, you carry that around all day!  It’s really motivating to see as each day goes by how you’ve improved since they’ve already done the math for you!  And, I’m always up for a little competition so it’s amazing to beat my time.

Money goals?  Use the free mint.com and start tracking.  Stop by the bank and have them electronically move your money into a savings account each payday so you don’t have to think about it.  You can’t waffle on the decision because they do it automatically.  Bonus!

Even making a difference can be as simple as paying for someone’s coffee order.  I’ve seen it in action and it’s priceless.  Purge your house and donate to a charity.  Help out at your kid’s school.  Smile and say “hi” to someone as you walk by.

Whatever your goal, you have resources.  Stop the negative self-talk that says you “can’t”.  It just blocks your view of the resources available!

Do what you can with what you have.  Make the difference.

five to focus

27 Jan

 

You know that feeling of desperation you get when you have an overwhelming to-do list, you’ve procrastinated already, and you just can’t get your brain to focus enough to know where to start?  Yeah, me, too.  I don’t think it’s something just we entrepreneurs battle constantly; I think everyone gets bogged down with it!

So!  To get back on the swimming, going-forward side of things, these are my go-to options:
Focus. Get work done.--image by theSpunkySapphire.wordpress.comToss the Garbage. Overwhelmed? Take a garbage bag and five minutes.  Toss everything that doesn’t need to be around.  Old receipts, notes, candy wrappers (we all have them!), and whatever else is cluttering your space.  In the garbage.

Crack your Favorite Beverage. For me, this is always Mountain Dew.  Something about that fizz and taste revitalizes me and helps me get things done.  Maybe that drink is wine, Champagne, or fresh flavored water for you!

Download.  Get rid of the mental clutter.  Reminders for your schedule, inspiration for the next thing you want to do, worries about your kids or budget or just life, dreams, bucket-list items; whatever it is, write it down.  Take five minutes and just write like crazy.  Once it’s out, you can focus on what’s at hand, and organize the notes accordingly later!

Walk. Stretch. Plank.  Go for a walk.  Stretch out the kinks.  Do the plank (or whatever else makes you feel powerful and invincible).  Exercise is amazing for focus and doing something that makes you feel like you can conquer the world?  Priceless.

Just Start. Edit Later.  Start anywhere.  Just do it.  Freestyle it if you need to.  Don’t worry about what it looks like now because you can edit later.  Just give it momentum.

This year is going to be magical and purposeful, and nowhere in magic-land do the heroines (or heros!) get stuck by a little mess trying to make the big things happen.  Get out of that mind-mess and into your purpose!

 

more for monday

9 Sep

standing in the rain; wedding planning--theSpunkySapphire.wordpress.comThat was me on Saturday, soaked from the knees down as the rain was drizzling sideways.   This, my friends, is the glamorous life of a wedding planner.  I love it.  This is when I remembered why I always, always bring a second outfit and was so thankful I had stuck with my gut that morning.   It was such an amazing experience to be working as part of the Bride’s Butler team and I got to meet two of my favorite photographers.  Day made, in my book.  

I actually can’t believe we’re in the full swing of September.  Last week was nutty around here, but delightfully so, and it was fabulous to be crazy busy for a week.

This week, I’m looking forward to focusing on a few things: new blog headshots: (thinking this would be a fabulous prop),

Oversized balloon--theSpunkySapphire.wordpress.com new branding work with this sure-to-be-helpful-and-amazing webinar by the ladies of Making Brands Happen2013 Make it Happen Webinar--theSpunkySapphire.wordpress.comand wedding design.  C+S get married next week!Oranges and Ribbons: Favors in the Making--theSpunkySapphire.wordpress.com

Well, I’m off to a successful start so far, and looking forward to a successful week.  Note to all of us, courtesy of someone VERY close to me: “There’s something positive in everything, Anna.  Always look for it.”  Man, I love that guy.  Happy Monday!

more for monday

2 Sep

#savorseptember by Lara Casey--theSpunkySapphire.wordpress.comHappy Labor Day!  I guess this is “officially” the last weekend of summer.  It’s back to school and back to schedules and routine for everyone!  I will say that, although I feel like my summer flew by, I am very much looking forward to fall.  With that, I’m going to introduce you to Lara Casey’s #SavorSeptember– it’s time to make what matters happen.  

As I look at my calendar for this week, I realize I am totally booked.  However, around work, it’s full of time with friends as well as time coordinating a gorgeous wedding–my favorite thing!  This month will be the first that I am using my Powersheets and I’m really excited to start work on doing what I love–for good!  I’m remembering not to get overwhelmed, but to focus on the little by little.  Saying “yes” to spending more intentional time with my best friends, to savoring it, and saying “no” to wasted time, worry, and discouragement.

I just have to remember that slowing down for five minutes to savor something is NOT the same as wasting time.  I really get stuck on that sometimes, thinking that, when I’m relaxing with friends, I could/should be working, blogging, making things happen, when, in reality, I’m making the important things happen.  I’m making friendships happen, investing in other people, re-energizing myself and learning so much in the process!

So!  With that, remember to savor all the good times this weekend.  Take the time to “smell the roses”, if you will, and just breathe everything in!  (psssst….you’re not wasting time!)

What are you going to make happen this month?  Share it with the hashtag #SavorSeptember and let me know in the comments–I’d love to hear it!

more for monday

26 Aug

Don't let anyone ever dull your sparkle--theSpunkySapphire.wordpress.comJust a little glitter to start your week.  (because glitter is fun).  And a reminder to be awesome.  Be you and be authentic!  Contribute your talents to someone even if you think others might think your talents are crazy.  You were given them for a reason–don’t waste it!

Hope you all had an amazing weekend.  If you follow me on Instagram, you saw that after work on Saturday, I took my honey out for drinks and dinner to celebrate random things and to show him that I appreciate the incredible guy he is.  We spent Sunday with family we don’t see very often and recharged for the week!  Now, on this rainy, cozy Monday, I’m excited to work hard on the little by little.  Let’s do this!

more for monday

19 Aug

Get a little (or a lot!) messy!

Get a little MESSY -- theSpunkySapphire.wordpress.comSo…this is what my kitchen table looks like this morning.  And, frankly, I’m okay with it.  Thanks to a fabulous weekend, my kitchen and the rest of my house are clean, I spent some great time with friends, cooked more than I usually do, and made good things happen.  The mess can drive me bonkers, but I need all of it in order to get my to do list done today.  Getting messy is how things get done!

Now, onto grocery lists, blogging schedules, event design, constant learning, and cookie-baking.  What are you doing this week?